More Than Just Words—Communication in American Life

Have you ever wondered how people talk to each other in America? While every person is different, there are some common manners and customs that many Americans follow when speaking or meeting others.

Speaking Honestly—but Politely

Americans are known for being direct. That means they often say what they really think! But before they talk about something serious, they usually like to chat a bit first. This is called “small talk” — like asking “How are you?” or talking about the weather.

What Not to Say

Even though people are open, it’s important to be respectful. Americans do not like rude language, and saying bad things about someone’s race, religion, or gender is not okay at all.

Eye Contact and Body Language

In America, looking someone in the eyes when you’re talking to them shows you are listening and being honest. If someone avoids eye contact too much, it might seem like they are not interested.

How People Greet Each Other

• Men usually shake hands when they meet.

• Women may hug each other, or sometimes shake hands.

• Men sometimes kiss women on the cheek when greeting — but only if they are already friends or family.

• Standing too close can make people uncomfortable. Americans like a bit of space when they talk.

Gestures to Know

A thumbs up means “Good job!” or “I like it!” in American culture. It’s a friendly and positive sign.

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